The Fabric of My Being: Integrity & Healthy Masculinity

I embody a strong and healthy masculine energy - and I bring this to every aspect of life from karate to business and spiritual life to romantic relationships. I stand in my full integrity and authenticity at all times, and this part of me is unshakable. My morals are immovable, and this creates harmony and alignment in my life. I stand up for my beliefs… and one of them is that women and Divine Feminine should be honored. I respect and protect the Divine Feminine, keeping her safe from harm and free from fear, and creating an environment of support for her to shine and grow - free of judgement, and held in unconditional love. I respect the hell out of the women in my life. I will cherish and support my future wife’s expression of her feminine essence.

How I View Relationships

When people say, "Relationships are hard." I simply say “The wrong relationships are hard. The right relationships need tending to, caring for, and investment, yes - but they should flow with ease because both partners want to be there.” Very rarely are both partners equally supportive of the relationship at exactly the same time - there are natural ebbs and flows in effort and capacity to support, of course - but I feel that both people should commit to showing up for three things: (1) themselves, (2) the other, and (3) the integrity of the relationship.

What Makes a Relationship Amazing?

For me… absolute trust, loyalty, true vulnerability, unconditional love, open communication, and a willingness to lean in together through life's challenges…plus a substantial investment in intimacy outside of the bedroom, tons of laughter, lots of play, living room dance parties, spontaneity, adventures, and fun - to stay young at heart as you grow old together.

Stoicism, Ethics, & What I Do When Life Gives Me Lemons

I believe life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it, and attitude is everything. The fact is… if you give me lemons, I will make you Pinot Noir and leave you wondering how the fuck I just did that.

Here Are Some of My Flags. Red Flags? Green Flags? I'll Let You Decide…

1. My longest relationship was 14 years. Yes, we were married and divorced. I didn’t have kids of my own, but I did raise her daughter and put her through college.

2. I very much want my own biological children with my future wife. I think mothers are beautiful, of course, and also right now I'm calling in a wife who doesn't have kids of her own yet.  

3. In times of difference or disagreement, I prefer to process my feelings and then respond appropriately. When I'm angry, I'll work through my feelings. I’ll never yell, and work to be crystal clear with my words. I have clear boundaries and I will communicate them.

4. I always put the toilet seat down and the cap on the toothpaste. I keep a clean, organized home. I never go to bed angry or with a dirty kitchen. 

5. I've never cheated or been unfaithful. My theory is “Don't be in a relationship if you don't want to be.” 

6. I believe the worst truth is better than any lie. I’m honest and I need honesty in return.

7. I show up in relationships in a way that uplifts the woman I’m with. If I date a woman and we end up parting ways, I leave the relationship having improved her life.

8. I'm deeply connected to my heart and feel deep emotions and empathy as a result. 

9. I'm intuitive, I read energy, I move energy, and I hone the qualities of my energy. I will always be committed to growing these capacities.  

10. Personal growth is a major component of my life and I've spent more than 2,000 hours working and training with an energy worker to shape myself. We operate on a pretty high vibrational frequency, and it's my form of therapy. I've navigated trauma, unhelpful programming, and outdated belief systems in order to reprogram myself. I've done all the long, hard, dark dirty work - for myself of course - but also so that I can show up fully for my future wife.

11. I'm insanely driven in my work, but my work is the least interesting thing about me. 

12. I have a healthy relationship with my family - which includes my mom, dad, and brother.

13. I have a rescue cat named Jackson Golden. He runs the ship - and yes, dogs have Masters and cats have Staff.